Son and Orphan

by Wes Bridel on July 3, 2009

in Calling

Let’s take a brief look at the differences between an orphan and a son.

  • Family Love:  A son is free to receive love from members of the family and also free to offer his love and affection to others.  An orphan is fearful to do so.
  • Inheritance:  A son has a right to claim his father’s inheritance; an orphan has nothing to inherit.  An orphan often carries with him an endless pride of being “self-made” while a son enjoys a natural posture of being assured of his place, especially his future.
  • Provision and Protection:  A son freely enjoys his father’s protection and provision.  These are absent for an orphan for lack of a father.
  • Mental and Emotional Well-being:  A son, with a good up-bringing and healthy education, is more likely to be stable in his mental and emotional expressions of himself as he enjoys great security, stability and confidence of being who he is.   An orphan, having none of these, is seldom whole and stable in his expression of himself, whether mentally or emotionally.

When Jesus was with His disciples, He shared with them that He would lead them to the Father, His Father and their Father.  When He was ready to die, He encouraged them with the thought that He would not leave them as orphans.  By our Adam-born nature, we all lost the spiritual sense of home and love with the absence of the Spirit of our Heavenly Father.  Only when we receive the Spirit of Sonship, are we able to be restored back to our relationship with our heavenly Father.  And that is a process.  It cannot be done by self-will and self-strength, but by the apprehending and appropriation of His grace.

This post is _Part 8_ in a series Restored Back to the Father: Son and Orphan.  To use this as a growth tool to better understand your own calling, you might start by reading the explanation of this series and then read Pt 1, Pt 2, Pt 3, Pt 4, Pt 5, Pt 6 and Pt 7.

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Skip Hamblin 07.07.09 at 7:38 am

Your Blog is great, expertly written, full of Christ’s love and sensitive to all.
As a person who also generates a devotional, (Blue Tooth Ministries) I want to encourage you and uplift your efforts to get fathers to be the Godly father that our Lord Jesus intended for us to be.
As a father of 4 (2 biological and 2 step) children and a grandfather of 7 the adoption issue, at least here in Michigan, is an issue of great importance to me.
I love the differentiation that you made between a son and an orphan, you are crisp, clear and you speak to the heart of the issue. We, as gentiles, adopted into God’s family have been given full son ship. Yes, we can claim our rights, privileges and responsibilities as heirs to the throne. It is wonderful to think of how much our Lord loves us as to actually adopt us and to make no difference between us and the Jews he loves so much. We are a family. Our Heavenly father loves, protects and disciplines us and he wants the best for us.
I agree with everything you have said and you said it very well.
However, my brother, here in Michigan the laws have been so changed so as to pervert the very definition of son ship and adoption.
True adoption speaks of a relationship that cannot be replaced even by the biological parent. For the most part, as your blog states the burden for the relationship is placed on the parent with some input from the child. True adoption speaks of a pure relationship between the parent and child that is not polluted by interference from forces outside of the family.
However, here in Michigan the laws have been so perverted that “True” adoption does not exist.
There is the old southern saying that says that “Blood is thicker than water”. Well, here in Michigan never has an old saying been more true. Adoption here in Michigan has been perverted to mean nothing more than being an unpaid babysitter. Adoption of a child into a family ceased to exist because at any time the biological parent chooses or at anytime the child chooses the non-family parent can interject influences, discipline, ideas, religious and anti-religious, anti-god and anti-family and anti-adoption philosophies that destroy the bond of relationship that is so precious between the adoptive parent and the adopted child.
In short, with true adoption, a child leaves one family and becomes a member of another family. In today’s world, at least in Michigan, the child never leaves the one family so the child can never become a full member of the adoptive family. Consequently, the child is stuck between the 2 families and the wound of leaving the biological family never heals. Also this prevents the child from becoming a full member of the adoptive family.
This is what I meant that, in a true adoption, there is no difference between an adopted son and a biological son.
I believe that in your blog you are talking about an orphan that never gets adopted. In this case you’re absolutely correct that there is a world of difference between the 2.
In Michigan today, this is exactly what I am talking about, the adopted child is never really completely adopted and the influence of an anti- or un-godly adult on the family is intolerable.
Lastly, may I say also, the cry of many an adoptive parent who has poured out their lives, their heart, money, blood, sweat, tears, home and future only to have the court crucify them by forcing the biological parent to regain their parental rights and custody of the child.
To lose a child through death, via an accident, sicknes or the military, is hard enough, but to lose a child after putting in years of hard work to make a parental/child bond work is unthinkable. Also the child is still alive. Is this child my child or not?
In short, non- paid babysitters. Broken hearted that their child has been ripped from their arms and worse, the child is allowed to focus all his or her anger for the adoption process on the adoptive parents, even to the point of murder, torture or abuse.
True adoption is wonderful, but in our society it has been perverted. This is an indication of the perversion of our own society, where we as adopted children by our loving heavenly father refuse to become fully adopted. One toe in the world and one toe in the kingdom.
Brother, this has been a heavy email. But, I fear that we are going to be forced to broadcast a true definition of the terms that we use or else the world will not know our meaning.
This is the reason why our politicians are constantly saying “well, I don’t know what you mean by that term”. Because people change the definitions to suit their own will and we have to constantly bring them back to the Webster definition of terms and language.
Press on my brother, you’re doing a great job, and don’t let the world pervert the message that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ has given you to tell the world.
But, we cannot rely on plain ole English being plain ole English, meanings and personal experiences have so changed that the world will not understand us.
I praise my Jesus for you brother, press on.
Remember, I am praying for you.

In Christ’s Name,

Best Regards,

Skip Hamblin

Wes Bridel 07.07.09 at 10:58 am

Thanks Skip. You make a great point that i wasn’t aware of here in Texas. The Jewish and Roman cultures of the time had full adoption rights. I believe I’ve read that in either Roman or Jewish adoption (sorry that I can’t remember which it was), the adopted child had more rights than the natural born child, once brought in. they could not be cast out as a natural child could be. This is the imagery we were trying to point to.

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